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he’s dying … does that mean he gets a pass?

He’s dying, is a line from the movie Kodachrome – film on Netflix. The line implies that even through he was a difficult person you should put that aside and spend time with him.

If family relationships weren’t so challenging, and if we didn’t have such a difficult time talking about and preparing for death, spending time with a dying family member might not be a big ask.  Sadly, however, they are, and we do. In Kodachrome, Matt Ryder reluctantly drives his dying father, to whom Matt hasn’t spoken in ten years, across the country to the last photo shop in America that can still process the father’s decades-old rolls of undeveloped Kodachrome film.

Kodachrome

Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity” – Pema Chodron


Being stuck with the pain of not having the relationship you wanted may keep you from being in the relationship that’s available.  We get to choose.

The set-up from WikipediaMatt Ryder is an A&R representative at a record label who is in danger of losing his job after his company’s biggest client signs with another label. His father’s assistant and nurse Zooey Kern arrives at his office and informs him that his father Ben, a famous photographer, is terminally ill. Though they have not spoken in over ten years, Ben has requested that Matt drive him to Dwayne’s Photo in Parsons, Kansas, the last shop that still develops Kodachrome film. Ben has several undeveloped rolls he wants to have processed before he dies, and Dwayne’s will stop in the near future because Kodak no longer makes the required dyes.


Everyone I know goes away in the end…

Hurt by Johnny Cash

Hurt – Nine Inch Nails Trent Reznor

 

 

 

 

 

Do you want to talk about Death over Dinner?

When we discuss the things that may be a little scary  such as death, our own or a loved one, it just may open us up.

Michael Hebb  – How death came to dinner

It all started with a University of Washington graduate course called Let’s Have Dinner and Talk About Death, taught by Michael Hebb and Scott Macklin, which quickly grew into a beautiful website designed by Seattle agency Civilization with content developed by Angel Grant

TedMed talk – Breaking bread has historically been a step toward social progress, says Michael Hebb. How can we use the power of home and hearth to change healthcare?

 

If I Die Young

 

From NPR – Parents Lose Their Daughter And Their Life Savings To Opioids

Song played at funeral by The Band Perry 

If I die young, bury me in satin. Lay me down on a bed of roses. Sink me in the river.

Lord, make me a rainbow. I’ll shine down on my mother. She’ll know I’m safe with you when she stands under my colors.

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